Young children throw tantrums because they don’t have the language they need to share how very, very, very unhappy they are. Adults also throw tantrums, although in “more acceptable” formats. The adult versions include:

1. Silence (not saying anything, although they should)
2. Digs (saying something that undermines the person)
3. Resentment (which results in getting even later on)

So, why do we do this? For one simple reason: We do not have the language we need to say what we want or need to. If you have the words to fully communicate, there is virtually no situation or person that will get the best of us.

To get the language you need, familiarize yourself with the notion of Distinctions. Distinctions are subtleties of language, that when gotten, give more power. The process of seeing these subtle differences is called “drawing a distinction.” Drawing distinctions is not simple semantics. It is a method of accelerating a person’s development because they not only see or understand the distinctions, but begin to reorient their lives around the stronger one.

Imagine what your life will be like when you draw on all of these.

Wow.

You’d have all the language you’d ever want or need.

Carpe diem,