1. Understand that you need to dramatically extend your boundaries.
2. Be willing to educate others how to respect your new boundaries.
3. Be relentless, yet not punitive, as you extend boundaries.
4. Make a list of the 10 things that people may no longer do around you, do to you, or say to you.
5. Sit down with each person involved and share with them your process; get an agreement to honor you.
6. Require that every single person in your life is always unconditionally constructive in every single comment to you: no more digs, make-funs, deprecating remarks, criticisms.
7. Have and use a four-step plan of action whenever someone violates your boundaries: Inform them what they are doing, implore that they stop immediately, require that they stop, walk away without any snappy or get-even comments.
8. Make a list of 10 ways you are violating others’ boundaries.
9. Stop violating the boundaries on that list.
10. Reward and congratulate those who are respecting boundaries.

Carpe diem,