“Do you have integrity?” I was asked this at Richard Robbins conference a few years ago. As I looked around the room, 99% of the people in attendance had their hands raised. Richard then asked if you had ever made a commitment to yourself – to eat better, be organized or get to the gym. Then he asked if we had ever not lived up to that? Have we ever made a choice to lie to ourselves and break a commitment? All the hands went down. He made the point that if we couldn’t have integrity with ourselves, how could we extend that in our dealings with others?

I recommend the book – Integrity: The Courage to Meet the Demands of Reality by Henry Cloud. It is a great book that outlines the importance and elements of integrity. Among the highlights and points of the book, he included what he thought were the essential elements of integrity -

· The ability to connect authentically – which leads to trust

· The ability to be oriented toward the truth - which leads to finding and operating in reality

· The ability to work in a way that gets results and finishes well – which leads to reaching goals, profits, or the mission

· The ability to embrace, engage, and deal with the negative – which leads to ending problems, resolving them, or transforming them

· The ability to be oriented toward growth – which leads to increase

· The ability to be transcendent – which leads to enlargement of the bigger picture and oneself

Carpe diem,

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When I see a high performance agent or team hit the skids or slide sideways in business, it is almost always a problem on the personal level.  One of the reoccurring issues is a tap root of bitterness that is held.  In order to break free and get back on track we need to pause the business coaching and start working through the issue. 

One of the fundamental truths we start with is to come to see how staying unresolved with someone or something in your past hurts you far more than it hurts anyone else.  My grandfather, an old preacher, used to have a saying that he would use from time to time in his sermons – “Bitterness is a poison that destroys the vessel in which it’s stored far more effectively than on the person on which it is intended to be poured.”

When we can see that it is hurting us far more than the other person it enables us to face the very real benefit of forgiveness and letting it go.  Those unresolved issues are an anchor that chains us to our past hurts, disappointments and wounds.  While the anchor holds, we have no hope of sailing on to our dreams.  The former always restricts the latter. 

When we are held up and haunted by the hurts of the past, learn to see them as the cancer they are and learn to forgive and let go. 

It’s in your benefit to do so.

Carpe diem,

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